17 Mar 10 Tips Every Bride Should Know When Planning Her Wedding
Now that you’re engaged, t’s time for the happily ever after, but first, the wedding.
Planning a wedding can feel pretty overwhelming, from inviting guests to planning the party to managing the intricate finances that comes with wedding planning, it can be stressful. Recruiting a wedding planner can be helpful but at times just don’t fit your wedding budget. Nonetheless, it is possible to have the wedding of your dreams with these ten simple D.I.Y tips every couple should know when planning their wedding.
It will require organisation to keep everything on track. You will be faced with what feels like endless decisions, lists, deadlines, and as if that wasn’t enough, you’ll have to go about your day-to-day life in between. Don’t start freaking out just yet, take a deep breath and take things one step at a time. Don’t feel afraid to reach out to your friends, family, and yes, even your future spouse for assistance. Make sure that no matter what you do, you give yourself plenty of time to plan.
1. Get Organised
It’s essential to do what you did in school to stay organised: use simple notebooks, planners, or you can get creative and start scrapbooking.
It’s soo much fun to cut out all your favourite wedding things and stick it in a book or folder. That was my favourite part of planning my own wedding. The rest however…no where near as much fun. I’ll fill you in on the details in another article.
Use whatever organising book you choose to help to compile everything from your correspondence with vendors to photos you ripped out of bridal magazines to get an idea of things you want to make your dream wedding come true.
2. Take It One Step at a Time
Planning a wedding can snowball pretty quickly if you don’t take it one step at a time. Put together a schedule either through a handy smartphone app or old-school notebook and take each task one by one in a logical order. Luckily for you, we have created a To-Do List functionality on our website to help keep you on track. Don’t let yourself run around like a headless chicken like I did or else you’ll find yourself flapping around, dishevelled and unorganised. Lucky for me, my bridesmaids were there to pick up the pieces while I was busy failing at being superwoman.
It’s essential to get a grip on the number of guests and their extras when planning your wedding, especially if it’s in a smaller venue.
If you’re planning an African wedding, then we will have to tackle this in another article, because that’s a whole other kind of wedding to plan, trust me.
You will want to ensure you’ll have ample space to accommodate everyone as well as plenty of food available, so your guest’s stomachs don’t start adding additional soundtracks to your selected music.
4. Keep a Paper Trail
Write everything down, especially if you’re working with vendors. Don’t assume everything is all set and ready to go.
Get any nonstandard changes to your agreements in writing or else if anything unexpected happens before your wedding, you’ll have nothing to back up what you’re trying to say.
Your wedding budget should try to follow a formula that makes sense for you and your future spouse’s finances. Normally people follow a formula of: 48%-50% percent of total budget for reception; 8%-10% for flowers; 8%-10% for attire; 8%-10% for entertainment/music; 10%-12% for photo/video; 2% to 3% for invitation/stationery; 2% to 3% for gifts; and 8% for miscellaneous items, but again, it’s up to you.
6. Vision Board
Take the things that inspire you from your favourite resources. Perhaps Pinterest, Instagram, trusted bridal magazines, blogs, etc. Get a good sense of the type of style you like—translate that into something you can realistically pull off for your dream wedding.
7. Be Willing to Think Outside the Box
You and your future spouse are unique individuals, and you most likely want your wedding to reflect that. Just because everyone else has their wedding a certain way, doesn’t mean that you have to – your wedding is about you! Yes, you most probably want to make it a day your guests will remember, but most importantly it’s a day for you and your fiancé to remember and to talk about and celebrate for the rest of your lives.
8. Your Bridesmaids and Groomsmen
Your bridesmaids and groomsmen are there for emotional and tactical support through your wedding planning process. Choose friends and family you can trust and who you truly want standing next to you during this special occasion. Try to make sure they’re the people you want to see standing across or behind you when you’re smiling up at the altar.
If for any reason you are not in a position to choose who you want as a bridesmaid or groomsman, then find a way to set boundaries without causing offence and rocking the boat. At My Wedding Compare, we understand that sometimes things have to be done a little different. To help ease the stress (that’s kind of our thing) we’ve devised a way for you to share the planning experience with your bridal party without it getting out of control. Check out our sharing tool by creating a free customer account at our website.
9. Manage Stress
For the sake of your sanity, make sure you schedule some time for you and your fiancé to be together and do anything but wedding plan. Take time for self-care and relationship-care! Maybe take a moment to decompress through massage during a spa day. Go out to a park or enjoy a romantic date with your partner and promise not to talk about the wedding.
10. Work with Your Fiancé in All Areas of Planning
Remember this wedding is about celebrating your love and also about embarking on a lifetime partnership. You are both in this wedding planning process together. Turn to your fiancé for help along the way and even make wedding planning something fun you do together. Don’t be afraid to share and ask even the smallest of details that you’re trying to handle on your own.
Remember that you don’t have to take on the task of planning your wedding alone. You have everyone from professional wedding planners (if your budget allows), you have friends and family to your future spouse as your support system while you’re planning the wedding of your dreams.